4 ridiculous myths about kink debunked

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Kink as a taboo subject in the modern society

If you’ve been a porn consumer for a while, you probably have noticed that there’s way more out there than just videos of couples fucking in a missionary position. People try all sorts of naughty and kinky things to intensify their sexual experiences and make them truly memorable. Think about BDSM, flogging or piss play, for example. Each of these activities fall under the kink umbrella.

Although the modern Western society is more sexually liberated and open-minded than before, kink is still a taboo topic. We don’t talk about it with our partners and friends, let alone complete strangers. Well, unless if you’re completely shameless like me and bring up spicy topics on the first date. And it appears that a common reason why we hesitate to talk about kink is all the misconceptions that we might believe. It’s time to break the taboo and look at kink as it is – a beautiful exploration of bodies and souls. Time to debunk some kink myths!

1. Kink is abusive. Wrong. While some abusive situations can happen in the kink context, it is not inherently abusive, as long as it follows SSC, PRICK or RACK. If you’re not familiar with these terms, they stand for safe, sane and consensual, personal responsibility informed consensual kink and risk aware consensual kink. These terms are commonly used in the BDSM communities to highlight the importance of consent and personal responsibility. As long as kinky activities happen between consenting adults, it’s all good. Yes, even if these activities carry some risks like, for example, breath play or knife play do.
2. Kink is a result of trauma. While sometimes kinks can be created from trauma (like it happens with CNC aka consensual non-consent), it is not as common as you might think. In fact, kink can even be healing and therapeutic in certain situations. Speaking from personal experience here. There have been times when a good beating with a paddle or something heavier has helped me to release pent up emotions and feel better.
3. All kink is sexual. Okay, I might catch some fire for this, but I don’t believe that all kink is sexual. Of course, it CAN be, but it all depends on the situation. For example, for me needle play or impact play (spanking, flogging etc.) is not necessarily sexual. To me, it is a spiritual experience and a simple exploration of my masochism. It doesn’t create sexual arousal in me, but I love the mindspace it puts me in. I truly believe that certain kinky practices can be healing when it comes to mental health. However, this is a topic that I haven’t explored much just yet. When I do, I’ll definitely share my discoveries with you!
4. Fetishes are rare and very few people have them. Umm, have you ever visited Fetlife? It is full of kinky people like you and me, and they come in all flavours. In a way, I should thank Fetlife for educating me on kink ever since I was eighteen, before I even had the guts to attend my first munch. Going through the kink list on Fetlife was like going through an extensive food menu and seeing what appeals to me and what doesn’t. Turns out that I’m into quite a few kinks myself!

I truly hope that this little list I’ve compiled has made you feel better about yourself. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying unusual sexual practices, whether it’s ocassionally or daily. As long as all involved parties are adults that have freely given their enthusiastic consent, you’re good to go.

Are there any kink related myths that I forgot to mention in this list? And how do you feel about your kinky self? (Hopefully you’re proud because you really should be.) Let me know in the comments! And if you enjoyed this post, consider subscribing for more sexy writing in the future and take a look at my previous posts.

Love, Alison